When Your Kids Fly The Coop

When Your Kids Fly The Coop


Pastor Sandy Scheer

This year has been a big transition year in the Scheer family. Our oldest son, Taylor married the love of all of our hearts. Cassidi could not be a better fit for Taylor and our family. Brooklyn is engaged and getting married in a few months to Press Taylor, who is such an example of integrity and character. He is from Norman and coaches in Philadelphia. That means two things….Brooklyn is moving to Philly and we are huge Philadelphia Eagles fans! We couldn’t be more excited adding Press into the family. Our youngest, Kennedy graduated high school and is a freshman at The University of Oklahoma. Boomer Sooner! She loves sorority life and the freedom of being on her own. Bill and I celebrated our 30-year anniversary. We have known each other for 34 years. I definitely made the right decision marrying the most unselfish person I know. I would do it all over again and again. So….We are empty nesters. Here are a few things I know being almost a year into this transition and new season of my life.

1. The time you have with your children flies by! I know…everyone says that. I’m here to tell you that when the kids were young and taking naps, I remember thinking that it will be like this forever. No! Take those family vacations. You never feel an abundance of money is there at the “right time.” Do it! Make memories, especially the ones just sitting at the table together. You will remember the little things at dinner more than the big occasions. It is about quantity of time. They didn’t know the difference between quality time and quantity time. Kids just want to be with you! Once they fly the coop and have their own lives, it gets more complicated.

2. Go to every sporting event, band competition and awards ceremony you can.
Work is important but nothing comes before God and family. You will never regret that decision and they will never forget that. You make time for what’s important. Let them know you choose them!

3. Once the kids are off on their own, pay for the special experiences. We have friends that take a family trip once a year with their children’s families and pays for all of it. They laugh and say that’s one trip no one misses. Everyone wins. It doesn’t have to be expensive. I want to always live a generous life and that’s not always about money. It’s a mindset.

There’s so many more things that can be said but we are only in the first year of this new season. One thing I know for sure is that this will be our greatest season. Why? It’s the one we are in. It’s a choice. Enjoy every season you are in because what I do know is Time Really Flies!

– Pastor Sandy