You Have Got To Get Some Friends

You Have Got To Get Some Friends

I recently celebrated a college graduation of a friend in her sixties. She had never finished college although her and her husband have been very successful throughout their life. During the celebration she commented to me, “I love everyone in this room tonight. This is my world. These are my friends.” I looked around realizing I only knew a few in the room. I remember thinking, “She’s in her sixties and the people in this room are all of her friends in one room?” She talked of different ones that had stuck by her through some messy times. She talked of the ones that she “thought” were her friends that were not in the room or in her life that night. Friends she had for years that proved to not be a true friend after all. She wasn’t sad talking about the ones that were no longer in her life. She was happy and confidently proclaimed that these were her friends. It was almost like she had been on a journey to find her true friends and that night was the celebration that she had found them. It made me think of my friends. Who are my “real friends?”
Jesus gave us the best example of friendships. He graciously ministered to the crowds. He had his twelve disciples that He poured into. He had his three that were His closest, Peter, James and John. He had the one He loved, John.

We can get so busy pastoring the people or crowd that we forget our twelve, three and one. If we aren’t intentional about our friendships, we will be so focused on the crowd that we will miss the few God has placed in our lives to be our friend. At the end of the day, we have a certain capacity. We can only be close friends with so many. We know the order of priorities. God comes first, spouses second, children third and friends rank somewhere after all of the above. With our busy schedules, who has time for friends? It’s so easy as women to be skeptical of people that want to be in our inner circle. We have all had “friends” that have let us down or maybe were in it for selfish reasons. We have all experienced that kind of friend. I used to go to a dentist that made going through labor a walk in the park but that didn’t stop me from going to the dentist. I need a checkup every six months. I just found a better dentist. The bottom line is….WE NEED FRIENDS! We need to be better pickers. We need to judge the tree by its fruit. Age doesn’t matter. Fruit matters.

I want to challenge you today to surround yourself with good friends. Go find your twelve, three and then your one. Life is too short to not spend it with friends. My friend in her sixties that had the graduation party is one of my new friends. I’m proud of her. It takes a lot to return to college and finish your degree in your sixties. This is the kind of friend I admire. I was honored to be in that room she said was her whole world. I was counted as one of her friends and she is one of mine. Together we are better!

Here’s to friends,
Sandy Scheer